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All praise is due to Allah ﷻ, Lord of the worlds and May His peace and blessings be upon His final prophet and messenger, Muhammad ﷺ.

Often when a person is in distress, he loses hope in Allah ﷻ. He believes the doors to freedom are closed on him and he has no way out of the situation at hand. He will extend his hands towards the people and turn to Allah ﷻ as a last and hopeless resort. But the situation for a believing man or a believing woman should be different.

In a Hadeeth narrated by Ibn ‘Umar RA, Rasulullah ﷺ once related a story to the Sahaba RA. He ﷺ said, “Three persons of a people before you, were on a journey when they were overtaken by a storm and therefore they took shelter in a cave. A rock slipped down from the mountain and blocked the exit…

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Tips For A Successful 💖💖Marriage.💝💖

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T’s of a Successful marriage:
❤T Is for Taqwa – the foundation of a successful marriage. Fearing Allah allow both parties to live in harmony.
❤T is for Trust – don’t allow any room for your spouse to doubt you and give them some personal space.
❤T is for Tongue – control your tongue when speaking to your spouse. Don’t speak rudely.
❤T is for Talk – Communicate with your spouse regularly. Let them know your feelings.
❤T is for Time – make time to spend with your spouse, and realise that your life timetable has to change once you’re married.
❤T is for Tea – make sure you eat and drink together at the same time as this creates l♡ve between two people.
❤T is for Tolerance – nobody is perfect, but look at the good qualities in your spouse and tolerate the bad with patience.
❤T is for…

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Endless Greed and Desire


Sayyiduna Anas (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) narrates that Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) said, “If the son of Aadam has two valleys of wealth, he will desire a third valley (of wealth), and nothing will fill the belly of the son of Aadam besides sand (of the grave), and Allah Ta‘ala forgives those who repent to him.” (Saheeh Muslim #2415)

On account of his carnal nature, man is ambitious and greedy. The more he has, the more he wants. If we have three pairs of shoes, we will still pine for the fourth. If the latest phone is released, we will not be satisfied until we upgrade by acquiring it. If we fly business class, we will hanker after flying first class. If we drive a German vehicle, we will wish that we drove an Italian supercar, and the list goes on.

In essence, there is no end to the greed of man. If he devotes himself to amassing wealth, so that he can fulfill his dreams and ambitions, his mission will never end, as the horizon of his ambitions will simply continue to expand. In this manner, his life will end without him having secured happiness and satisfaction.

The only thing that will curb this insatiable craving is the sand of the grave. Sadly, it is then too late for a person to attend to his primary objective – preparing for the Hereafter. Thus, we need to wake up to reality – no amount of wealth, clothing, holidays, social events and functions or anything else of this material world will help us in the Hereafter or even bring us true satisfaction and happiness in this world. Rather, true happiness lies in being content and making shukr (expressing gratitude) for what you have, not in acquiring what you do not have.

Finally, after realizing that we have been exhausting our energy, time and resources in the wrong avenue, there is no need for us to be depressed and despondent, as Allah Ta‘ala will forgive us if we turn to Him in sincere repentance.

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House or Home?


“Home is where the heart is” forms a well-known phrase which we often hear. However, we seldom hear a person say “house is where the heart is”.

The reason is simple – the word ‘house’ generally refers to just the structure, be it of brick and concrete or stone and mud, while the word ‘home’ refers to the special place to which a person belongs and where he feels most comfortable, relaxed and ‘at home’.

Let us now ask ourselves, “How many of us feel at home in our own houses?” Before we ‘jump the gun’ in our eagerness to answer, let us ponder over the following: Do we feel trapped in our homes, and feel like we just need to go out? Despite us having every luxury, amenity and comfort in our homes, is it inconceivable for us to spend a holiday at home? When we enter our homes, do we feel peace, tranquility and happiness? Or are we overwhelmed by feelings of gloom, depression and frustration?

If it feels as if our home is permanently permeated by the darkness of fighting, quarrelling and discontentment, then we need to look beyond Eskom for enlightenment. In this regard, we will find the ‘down-lighter of du‘aa’ and the ‘quarrel-breaking contentment-making current of the Quraan Majeed’ indispensable and irreplaceable.

Abu Hurairah (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) says: “The house in which the Quraan Majeed is read, its household members increase, virtues and barakah multiply, angels come down upon them and the Shayaateen run far away from there, but the house in which the Quraan Majeed is not read, life there becomes difficult and empty of barakah, angels leave the house and the Shayaateen stay in it.” (It-haafus Saadatil Muttaqeen vol. 4, pg. 466)

Naturally, the environment of a house filled with Shayaateen and void of angels will be one of misery and unhappiness. However, there is no need to despair, as we literally hold the flawless formula in our hands – The Quraan Majeed.

We need to enliven our houses, transforming them into homes of happiness, by daily reciting some portion of the Quraan Majeed. Whether collectively or individually, every member of the home should be part of this effort to illuminate the home with the noor of the Quraan Majeed. When recitation of the Quraan Majeed is replaced by reading posts on WhatsApp and Facebook, or reading novels and blogs, then the angels are forced to flee as the Shayaateen flock to the family’s home.

Just as we repel mosquitoes with ‘Peaceful Sleep’, let us repel the Shayaateen with the Quraan Majeed to enjoy peace, not only in our sleep but also in our wakefulness, and in every other aspect of our lives.

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Raise not the Niqaab


(Hafsah bintu Seereen (rahimahallah) – Part Two)

‘Aasim Al-Ahwal (rahimahullah), a renowned narrator of hadeeth, mentions the following:

We would go to Hafsah bintu Seereen (rahimahallah) (to learn hadeeth). Whenever we would go to her, she would use her jilbaab to cover her face as a niqaab. We once said to her, “May Allah Ta‘ala have mercy on you! Allah Ta‘ala has mentioned in the Quraan Majeed:

وَالْقَوَاعِدُ مِنَ النِّسَاءِ اللَّاتِي لَا يَرْجُونَ نِكَاحًا فَلَيْسَ عَلَيْهِنَّ جُنَاحٌ أَن يَضَعْنَ ثِيَابَهُنَّ غَيْرَ مُتَبَرِّجَاتٍ بِزِينَةٍ 

And the elderly women who are past the prospect of marriage, there is no blame on them if they lay aside their (outer) garments, provided they do not make a display of their beauty.  (Surah Noor v60)

(By reciting this verse to Hafsah (rahimahallah), ‘Aasim (rahimahullah) and his companions were implying that on account of her advanced age, Hafsah (rahimahallah) did not need to wear a niqaab.)

Hafsah bintu Seereen (rahimahallah) immediately asked, “What does the Quraan Majeed mention after that?” We recited:

وَأَن يَسْتَعْفِفْنَ خَيْرٌ لَّهُنَّ

but it is best for them to be modest

Hafsah (rahimahallah) explained, “This is the reason why I still cover myself with the niqaab.” (Sifatus Safwah vol. 2, pg. 241)

Lessons:

1. There were a select few women among the Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum) and Taabi‘een (rahimahumullah), whom Allah Ta‘ala had blessed with the knowledge of ahaadeeth. Due to the necessity for this knowledge of Deen to be preserved and transmitted to the Ummah, it was necessary for people to take the ahaadeeth from these women. However, as we see in the above incident, even when these women were well into the advanced stages of their life, due to which there could have been no fear of fitnah, they still ensured that they adhered strictly to the laws of hijaab and niqaab. They did not compromise, in any way, on the standards outlined by Deen. This is in stark contrast to some of the female ‘scholars’ of today who unashamedly sit on a stage in the company of strange men, attractively dressed and adorned in make-up, displaying herself to not only those present but to the entire world via the television. If we wish to acquire hadeeth and the knowledge of Deen, which is the legacy of Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam), then let us show it the due respect it deserves. 

2. A person who is truly pious will never become complacent or allow himself to be lulled into a false sense of security regarding his carnal self. Rather, he will always view his carnal self with suspicion and remain on guard and vigilant. Hafsah bintu Seereen (rahimahallah), as old as she was and as pious as she was, did not remove her niqaab and say, “My heart is clean. I don’t feel anything.” This is the indication of true piety – uncompromising commitment to the sharee‘ah. 

Think the Best of People

It sounds so simple but the reality is hard to accomplish:

Think the best of people.

A great, consistent and stubborn effort must consciously be taken for it to happen.

No matter what assumptions and conclusions your mind chooses to draw,

Think the best of people.

No matter how the whispers in your ear try to twist their actions and intentions,

Think the best of people.

If you must jump to conclusions, leap to the best possible one and

Think the best of people.

Rather than read in between the lines and find a possible negative reality,

Think the best of people.

Take people at their best and assume only the most pure and good intentions.

Think the best of people.

Next time someone says something which could be taken personally, which could be taken to hurt you,

Think the best of people.

Choose to assume that nobody ever means…

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The ‘Upgrade’ of the Aakhirah


Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) has mentioned, “When Allah Ta‘ala has decreed a particular rank (in Jannah) for a servant, but the servant is unable to reach this rank through his good deeds (as they are insufficient), then Allah Ta‘ala tests him in his body, wealth, or his children. Allah Ta‘ala then enables him to exercise patience over this test, until it makes him reach the rank that Allah Ta‘ala had decreed for him.” (Sunan Abi Dawood #3090)

Every person hopes for an upgrade – be it an upgrade to the latest cell phone model, an upgrade from economy to business or first class, an upgrade to the latest car model, or even an upgrade from a normal hotel room to the Presidential Suite. Many people cannot afford these upgrades, and those who receive them for free are few and far apart!

Our Beloved Allah Ta‘ala is so kind that He wishes us to enjoy a very high level in Jannah. However, we sometimes fail to ‘qualify’ for this upgrade as we lack sufficient righteous actions, while our ‘ibaadah are also weighed down by the burden of our sins. Hence, Allah Ta‘ala sends us free ‘upgrade’ packages. This package is sometimes a ‘bundle’ of sickness, our child passing away, a robbery, or any other calamity. Once the upgrade package is delivered, it requires an ‘activation’ which is the ‘password’ of patience and sabr.

If every person ‘downloads’ the mindset of adopting sabr and patience under all circumstances, we will all receive the upgrades of the Aakhirah