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‘Handed’ the Hijaab


A young Muslim girl from a gulf county recounts the incident that lead to her entering hijaab. She said:

How I adored “tabarruj” (displaying one’s beauty in public)! I would follow the latest trends and fashions of abaayas (the ones which attracted attention with their colours and shapes). My opinion of the Islamic abaaya (the loose one which covers the body properly) was that it was just made for the old fashioned poor girls!

One day, I went out with a group of my friends to the mall. I went out as usual, applying full make up to my face, perfumed and wearing an attractive abaaya. When a sister saw me in the mall, she came to me and advised me, in front of my friends, to wear the proper hijaab so that Allah Ta‘ala would not punish me in the Aakhirah.

Her advice shook me, but I wanted to make fun of her in front of my friends to make them laugh. So I did something which I should not have done, although Allah Ta‘ala, in His mercy, made it the means for me to turn to my Lord and change my life.

Do you know what I did? I held my hand in front of her face and said, “If you kiss my hand, I will wear the Islamic hijaab!”

What do you think she did? Do you think she got angry? Or she walked away? Or she objected? No! By Allah, she didn’t! She simply took my hand and kissed it! She kissed my hand saying, “I would even kiss your head if it meant that you would truly wear hijaab in return. What you asked me to do is small and simple compared to your preciousness.”

Then she made du‘aa for me and left. After she left, I cried and cried and cried. I realized that I had cheapened myself. I hated the abaaya I was wearing. When I went back home, I just wanted to be alone.

I then decided to wear the Islamic abaaya which is loose and concealing, and I prayed to Allah Ta‘ala to keep me on the right path. How I wish that I can meet that woman again to thank her, for all I can do for her is to always make du‘aa for her! Now they call me “Shaikhah” because of my commitment to Deen, but I don’t care what they say. Now, if I have to leave my home for some need, I notice that men are respectful and do not stare at me or flirt with me, whereas in the past, they always tried to joke with me and be intimate. Through this, I realized that a woman’s true respect and value lies in practising on the commands of Deen. 

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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Time

Change the way how you use your time and effort. Time is so damn important, use the time effectively. You have to consider your time as the most precious recourse there is. Be very careful on how we manage time, be afraid to waste your time.

Use your time effectively. Value your time.

Routines

Change the routines you currently have going on, because your still stuck in the same lousy grey zone of not moving forward or being happy.  Keep building yourself, take greater and greater challenges

Goals

Stop setting tiny goals! Push for those dreams you’ve always wanted, the enormous dreams that give the chills down your spine, the one’s that make you rude and hide from being afraid.

Thinking 

The Most important thing I had to change, is the way I think, the way I talk to myself.

Drop those negative thoughts, drop the negative voice talking to you. It was very hard for me to stay and remain positive. It took weeks and months.

The way we think is very very important!

If you don’t think big, how do you expect to get big

 

Change can branch out into many aspects. Change the things that you need.  These are the few things I had to change in my life to get to where I am today. Anything and Everything that is stopping you, CHANGE.

We push forward and adapt to the new change.

  • Ray

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Importance of Parents In Islam

When asked about the people who taught us the most, who were there for us through hardships, who laughed with us during the good times, who put up with us on our off days, most of us think immediately of our parents. And it is true: our parents are the ones who have been with us through almost everything in our lives. Our mothers carry us for nine grueling months before we are born, and for at least eighteen years afterwards, our parents, to list a few things, take care of us, teach us, help us, and provide for us financially and academically. Without them, most of us would not be in the places we are today.

Unfortunately, however, many people do not treat their parents in the manner they deserve. Teenagers fight relentlessly with their parents, often over extremely trivial topics. Other young people ignore their parents, rather spending time with their friends or online. As we get older, we tend to forget that our parents are growing older as well, and they are pushed aside to living on their own or in nursing homes while we start our own families. Not only is this disregard unfair to our parents, it is also strictly forbidden in Islam. الله has commanded us to treat out parents with utmost respect, no matter the situation we are in.

Respecting parents is one of the most significant aspects of Islam. الله says in the Quran:

Your Lord has decreed that you worship none but Him, and that you be kind to parents. Whether one or both of them attain old age in your life, say not to them a word of contempt, nor repel them, but address them in terms of honor. (17:23)

 The first decree in this verse is to worship none but الله. This is the first and most important pillar of Islam, and enjoining partners with الله is the only unforgivable sin. The order right after this is kindness to parents. There are other major sins in Islam that could have been mentioned here, but the one الله has forbidden us against here is disrespect to parents. We are told not to speak contemptuously to them: the word given in Arabic is “oof,” and even this simple groan of scorn is forbidden. Instead, الله has told us to address them with honor and deference.

The next verse tells us: “And, out of kindness, lower to them the wing of humility, and say: ‘My Lord! Bestow on them your Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood’” (17:24). The phrase“lower to them the wing of humility” has been interpreted as an image of the way birds spread their wings out of protection and love for their young. Our treatment of our parents is shown in the same way: we should be humble, respectful, and loving towards them.

Moreover, the prayer in this verse (“My Lord! Bestow on them your Mercy even as they cherished me in childhood”) is extremely powerful, and many scholars say that Muslims should say this after every prayer. It is truly a beautiful prayer, as we are asking اللهto bestow mercy on our parents, as they were merciful to us when we were young.

Holding one’s parents in high esteem is so important that, even if they tell us not to obey اللهs command, we are still to treat them kindly. الله says in the Quran,

But if they strive to make you join in worship with Me things of which you have no knowledge, obey them not; yet bear them company in this life with justice (and consideration). (31:15)

Even if our parents strive to make us commit the worst act in Islam, we must still treat them with justice. There is no concept of leaving our parents in Islam, even if they are disbelievers. To further elaborate this point, there is a saying from the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him (pbuh), narrated by Asma, the daughter of the Prophet’s good friend, Abu Bakr. Asma once asked the Prophet (pbuh) how she should treat her mother, who was a polytheist. The Prophet (pbuh) replied, “Treat your mother well.”

While we should obviously respect both our parents, our mothers are given special treatment in Islam. This is because our mothers carried us for nine months, and were our primary caregivers when we were children. In one saying of the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh), a companion asked him who deserves the most good treatment and respect. The Prophet (pbuh) replied, “Your mother.” The companion asked again, and again the reply was “Your mother.” The companion asked a third time, and once more the Prophet (pbuh) said, “Your mother.” When the companion asked for the last time, the Prophet (pbuh) then answered, “Your father.”

Our mothers deserve the utmost respect and good treatment, and there is no excuse otherwise. We are told this three times over. In another narration, the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) said that paradise lies under the feet of the mother. This further reiterates the fact that our mothers are to be the most revered and cared for people in our lives. In yet another saying, we are told that a man did the entire pilgrimage, Hajj, with his elderly mother on his back. The Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) told him that this did not even repay his mother for a single kick the man gave his mother while she was bearing him in the womb.

This is not to say that our fathers do not deserve respect. The story of Prophet Abraham (pbuh) in the Quran tells us that his father was ready to kill him for destroying religious idols and abandoning the pagan religion. Abraham, instead of losing control, merely prayed to God to have mercy on his father and to help him find the truth. Many youth today shout obscenities if their fathers give them a stern lecture. From our prophet we learn that this is never acceptable, no matter the situation.

Finally, there are many ways to fix our relationships with our parents. First and foremost, of course, we must recall the importance our parents have in our lives, and the various verses that remind us to be kind to them. There are also many sayings from the Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) that teach us how to act with them. In one narration, he likened caring for parents to fighting for the cause of God, the best deed a Muslim can do in his life. In another, we are told that smiling kindly at our parents is as though we have done the pilgrimage to Mecca, the Hajj. We should make it a habit to do these small things in our daily lives. Talking to our parents on a day-to-day basis, no matter our age, is also a way to close any gaps we may have with them. Lastly, it is always important to remember to pray for our parents. We have been told that several people’s prayers will always be answered, and among these is the child’s prayer for their parents.

May Allah grant us with the ability to properly respect and care for our parents aameen

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

​All in the name of a New Year:
Dressed in a black leather mini skirt,a shimmery silver top and Jimmy choo heels she is ready for the new years eve party at the hotest night club in town.How could she miss out on the most happening party of the year,on the most happening night of the year so she quickly covers herself up with an abaaya and hijaab before making salaam to her unsuspecting parents and rushes out the door as they think she is going for a sleepover at her cousin’s apartment.She removes her abaaya and hijaab as well as her haayah as soon as she enters her friends car.The party was as awesome as she expected and after trying an attractive looking alcoholic drink or two she was ready to dance the year away.A few minutes later she passed out only to be woken up the next morning,in a strange car,next to a strange man,her clothes had been stripped off as well as her dignity.All in the name of celebrating the new year.
A loving father purchases the lastest bike for his son as he was so proud of his achievements at school.He picked out a helmet in his son’s favourite colour and engraved daddy loves you on it.He wanted to suprise his only child and called his beautiful wife to let her know he will be coming home shortly.As he was making his way home he noticed a few guys in the parking area starting their new years eve celebrations early by drinking beers and dancing.He ignored them and drove past.He switched on his favourite Surah Yaseen and was reciting it when a van came crashing into his car alas he did not return home but returned to his creator.The police informed his wife and now orphan child that their loved one was killed by a drunk driver.All in the name of celebrating the new year.
A newly married couple are invited to attend a new years eve beach party with a group of friends and they decide to go.The cool colour co-ordinated couple sit together near a bonfire on the sea shore smoking weed with their friends and laughing the year away.At the stroke of 12 when everybody starts wishing each other a happy New year a friend who was high went too far by not only wishing the new bride but kissing her.This enraged her husband who was also intoxicated and a huge fight broke out,a trigger was pulled and she is now a new widow.All in the name of celebrating the new year.
He is a young hafiz of the Quraan hence he was hesitant on going to his friends house party on New years eve yet he reluctantly agreed.He was feeling awkward as there were girls dancing provocatively.He was not familiar with any of the girls and asked his friend as to why he invited girls.His friend laughed and hinted that these were no ordinary girls.After having a glass of coke he decided to leave but he could not as he was feeling light headed little did he know his coke was spiked.All he remembers is waking up at 3am with a strange older woman in his arms and a few months later he was diagnosed with HIV.All in the name of celebrating the new year.
Fomo-fear of missing out.We all suffer from fomo at times especially when shaytaan makes all things and events harmful to us look so glittery and attractive.New years eve parties are packaged to attract millions of Muslims as we dance to the tunes of shaytaan there are people that are being robbed of their loved ones,their dignity,their identity,their haayah,their imaan and even their souls all in the name of celebrating a new year and yet What changes after the countdown?What changes after the clock strikes 12.01?Will it magically make you a better human?Does it promise you treasures or maybe a better life?Nothing and nobody miraculously ever changed at the stroke of midnight.
Rather create Fomo(fear of missing out) in your heart,mind soul with regards to your Salaah,zikr,the recitation and understanding of the Quraan as only Allah has the power to make your hour,your day,your month,your year and your life beautiful in this world as well as the hereafter.Your ultimate Fear of missing out:Jannah 
May Allah safeguard us as well as our loved ones tonight and always.Ameen.
Naadira Chhipa

How to capture a Woman’s Heart

This, too, shall pass

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womans-heart

Sometimes men take women for granted…

and………..

Women define themselves by their men….

Both parties have failed to realise that ultimately they are the creations of Allah Ta’ala.

And if all of us are His creations…………………

Then he is our Rabb [creator]

and

we are all abid [slaves] of Allah Ta’ala………….

So why should we seek to please anyone else…???…

When our Rabb is waiting to hear from us…………….

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بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

​(*)Something that touched my heart:

On my way I found a piece of paper tied to an electric pole, with a small note on it.

I was curious to know what was written, hence went closer and read it.

“I lost Rs. 50 somewhere on the road. 

If any of you find it, please give it to me at this address. 

My vision isn’t great so please help”

I was urged to follow that address and found an old hut in shatters with an older woman sitting outside. 

She was frail and asked who is it, following my footsteps. 

I said I came by this way, found Rs. 50 on the road so wanted to handover to you. 

She began crying on hearing this. 

She said “my dear I have had at least 30-40 people come over and give me Rs. 50 saying they found it on the road.

I dint write that note, I cannot even see properly nor do i know to read n write”

I said it’s OK amma you keep it. 

She asked me to tear that note off on my way back. 

I walked back with a million thoughts as to who could’ve written that note?

She would’ve asked everyone to tear that note but none did, I mentally thanked that person and realized that we just have to feel the need to help, there are so many ways to do it.

He/she just wanted to help this old woman who lives alone…. 

Someone stopped me n asked, “Bro, can you help me with this address?

I found a 50 rupee note, want to handover”

*Humanity continues to be alive*