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Reaching Allah Ta‘ala Quickly


Hazrat Moulana Yunus Patel Saheb (rahimahullah) once mentioned:

The reward that a women receives for exercising patience over her difficulties in managing the home and fulfilling the rights of her husband and children is sometimes so great that it makes her ‘reach’ Allah Ta‘ala very quickly. This, however, is conditional to her obedience to Allah Ta‘ala; fulfilling His rights, the rights of His Rasul (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam), and the rights of His creation.

Women who have a number of children and sometimes even a temperamental husband, together with many household chores and other responsibilities, often think that they cannot achieve the ranks of the special friends of Allah Ta‘ala because they do not have time for ‘wazeefahs’ and nawaafil (optional prayers).

I tell them that they need not worry about too many wazeefahs. The most important ‘wazeefah’ is abstinence from all sins. Added to this, they should just correct their niyyah (intention) in all that they are doing as routine housework. When they make the intention of pleasing Allah Ta‘ala, then that very same housework becomes ‘ibaadah. In this simple way, they will easily secure great rewards and the same spiritual stages, if not higher.

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Hijrah with Hayaa


Ummu Kulthoom bintu ‘Uqbah bin Abi Mu‘ait (radhiyallahu ‘anha) was a Sahaabiyah who brought imaan, in Makkah Mukarramah, during the initial days of Islam. The following is her personal account of how she performed Hijrah to Madeenah Munawwarah. She recounts:

I would leave Makkah Mukarramah and go to an area on its outskirts, known as Tan‘eem, in which I had some family. Once there, I would remain with these relatives, spending three or four days with them. I would thereafter return to my family in Makkah Mukarramah who did not mind the time that I would spend in the outskirts.

This practice continued, until I one day decided to perform Hijrah to Madeenah Munawwarah, in order to join Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) and the other Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum). With the aim of performing Hijrah, I exited Makkah Mukarramah and pretended as if I was going to the outskirts as normal. As soon as the person who had accompanied me out of Makkah Mukarramah had left, I continued to walk, until I finally encountered a man. As he sighted me, he asked, “Where are you going?” As I was weary of my family and the Quraish learning of my plan to perform Hijrah, I was reluctant to disclose my destination to him and thus replied by asking him who he was and what he wanted. When he replied that he was from the tribe of Khuzaa‘ah, I felt at ease, as I knew that the Khuzaa‘ah had entered into a peace treaty with Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam). I thus said to him, “I am a woman from the Quraish and I wish to join Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam). However, I do not know the way.” Hearing this, he responded, “I will accompany you until I see to it that you enter Madeenah Munawwarah.”

Saying this, he brought me a camel on which I was to ride, and he would lead this camel himself. By Allah! (For the duration of our entire trip,) he never spoke even a word to me. Whenever I needed to dismount, he would make the camel kneel, and would thereafter go some distance away from me (so that he would not catch sight of my body while I was dismounting). After I had dismounted, he would return and tie the camel to a tree, after which he would again go some distance away from me and settle beneath the shade of a tree. When it was time to depart and recommence the journey, he would saddle the camel and bring it to me. He would then turn away until I had mounted the camel. Once I was seated on the camel, he would lead it by its head, and he would not once look back in my direction until it was again time to dismount. We continued in this manner until we arrived in Madeenah Munawwarah. May Allah Ta‘ala reward him well for the manner in which he accompanied me.

Once in Madeenah Munawwarah, I proceeded to the home of Ummu Salamah (radhiyallahu ‘anha). When I entered, however, she did not realize who I was as I was covered with my niqaab. Thus, she only realized who I was after I removed my niqaab and introduced myself to her. On learning of my identity, she immediately hugged me and asked, “Did you perform Hijrah to Allah Ta‘ala and Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam)?” I replied, “Yes, and I fear that Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) will return me to the Quraish (on account of the Treaty of Hudaibiyyah which stipulated that those who fled from Makkah Mukarramah should be returned), just as he returned Abu Jandal and Abu Baseer (radhiyallahu ‘anhuma). The condition of men and the condition of women are not equal and the same (i.e. women are naturally weaker and will not manage being sent back). My people will look for me in the morning. It is now five days since I left them. They will wait for me to return for this same amount of time – five days (as this was perhaps the maximum amount of time that she would spend on the outskirts) – and they will thereafter search for me. If they do not find me, they will depart (for Madeenah Munawwarah).

Soon thereafter, Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) entered the home of Ummu Salamah (radhiyallahu ‘anha) and Ummu Salamah (radhiyallahu ‘anha) informed Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) of my Hijrah. Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) welcomed me. I then said to Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam), “I fled to you in order to safeguard my Deen. Thus, protect me and do not return me, as they will put me through trials and punish me, and I will not be able to bear their punishment. I am merely a woman and you know the natural weakness of women. I have seen you return two men (and I thus fear that you will return me as well.)” To this, Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) explained that the clause of the Treaty did not apply to women.

Hence, When her brothers, Waleed and ‘Umaarah, arrived to take her back to Makkah Mukarramah, Rasulullah (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) did not allow them to take her and sent them back without her.

(Reference: Sifatus Safwah, vol. 1, pg. 332 and Usdul Ghaabah, vol. 5, pg. 488)

Note: It was only permissible for Ummu Kulthoom (radhiyallahu ‘anha) to travel without a mahram as she was fleeing for the sake of saving her imaan and Deen (as she herself explained). Hence, this incident does not in any way show the permissibility of a woman travelling without a mahram.

Lessons:

1. Ummu Kulthoom (radhiyallahu ‘anha), in order to protect her Deen, had to perform Hijrah to Madeenah Munawwarah. Despite all the odds being against her (as she had nobody to accompany her, nor did she know the way, nor did she have a conveyance to ride upon), she did what was in her capacity and tried her utmost to please Allah Ta‘ala. Hence, she began the journey to Madeenah Munawwarah on foot. When she showed the eagerness, Allah Ta‘ala assisted her and sent someone who not only provided her with a conveyance but even accompanied and protected her.

2. No matter how trying her circumstances were, she did not sacrifice or compromise on her hayaa. When she ensured that she maintained her hayaa and also wore the niqaab, Allah Ta‘ala accordingly sent a person to assist her who also had a great degree of hayaa. Hence, despite travelling together for five days, their hayaa was such that they never spoke a word and he never once raised his gaze and looked at her. We also learn from Ummu Kulthoom (radhiyallahu ‘anha) that hayaa is not merely to wear the niqaab. Rather, when a woman has true hayaa, she will not make any form of contact with a strange man – be it verbal contact, eye contact or contact through any other medium (e.g. the cell phone, WhatsApp, e-mail, etc.). 

3. After Makkah Mukarramah was conquered, the law of Hijrah ceased. However, if we cannot perform the Hijrah of Sahaabah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum), we can at least try to migrate away from sin to a life of obedience and pleasing Allah Ta‘ala.

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All in the need to Please:

By Naadira Chhipa 

 

They plan a trip to beach a month in advance, the kids are excited and stay up after fajr helping their parents pack the car with food, toys, umbrellas and chairs. They are all set to go have fun in the Sun when the phone rings, it’s their relatives from Johannesburg who are on their way to visit so the parents explain to their children that the beach trip will be slightly delayed, much to their disappointment. The visitors leave 3hours later and by then it starts to rain, ending the day for this family as the beach trip gets cancelled. All in the need to please.

 

She had baking orders the entire week although she had no helper she completed every order on time leaving her exhausted by the evening. She needed a break so she decided to take a well deserved nap and then the phone rings, it’s her sister in law asking if she could please bake a cake for her by the evening as she is getting visitors over and needs a treat, all the bakeries are closed. Although tired to the core she readily agrees to bake that cake and also a container of biscuits as well. All in the need to please.

 

He is invited to dinner by his colleagues yet he knows that the restaurant they made reservations at served alcohol as his colleagues love to indulge in a few drinks after work. He could easily refuse yet does not have the courage. He sits at a haraam restaurant, orders a salad while the others indulge in pork and wine, listens to stories filled with vulgar language and just plasters a fake smile while the rest enjoy themselves. All in the need to please.

 

Their daughter is engaged to be married to a wealthy socialite’s son. She wants her son’s wedding to be the talk of the town and leaves no stone unturned in organising only the best for the grand wedding. The brides family are humble and simple, they would  prefer just a small nikkah yet her parents have to take a personal loan for the glamorous wedding. All in the need to please.

 

A young boy starting high school stands nervously amongst his group of friends as they light up a rizzler stuffed with weed. He thinks about what his parents would say if they knew he was smoking weed and he shivers in fear yet he does not show this to his ‘cool’ new friends so he takes a puff. All in the need to please.

 

This need to please consumes us daily as we try to please the world.

 

We spend so much time and effort trying to please others often at the cost of our peace of mind, our health, our happiness, our spouse and kids happiness, our beliefs, our well-being and sadly our imaan. Prioritise yourself as well as your life. Surround yourself with people that make You happy, go to places You want to be at, decide when You are ready to break the shackles of being a people pleaser and free yourself from the guilt that comes with it.

 

People will never be totally pleased with you no matter what you do for them and that is not a fault of yours.

 

Sadly we teach our children to also be people pleasers hence when faced with a difficult decision their choice becomes easy, do what pleases everyone often resulting in them surrendering to peer pressure.

 

Instead of focusing on pleasing the creation let us focus on pleasing our creator.

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Musaafahah – Rulings and Etiquettes


1. Musaafahah refers to clasping the hands.

2. It is sunnah to make musaafahah after making salaam. Hence, one should not merely make musaafahah without making salaam.

3. Musaafahah should be made with two hands.

4. Musaafahah should be made on arrival and on departure.

5. Musaafahah should not be accompanied by any other unfounded practice e.g. kissing cheeks, twisting thumbs, etc.

6. If a person is carrying something, suffice on making salaam and do not inconvenience the person by trying to make musaafahah with him.

7. Similarly, if a person is busy or is rushing, do not inconvenience him by making musaafahah with him.

8. A woman should not greet or make musaafahah with men who are not her mahram.

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​All that Glitters 
You refresh your timeline on Facebook and there it is a stunning selfie of your friend and her husband on their anniversary holiday in Paris.Beautiful smiles plastered across the the screen as they pose happily infront of the Eiffel tower.You feel a tinge of jealousy as your husband is working late again and you are at home looking after your 2 energetic toddlers. Your heart burns. 
You see your cousin gracefully approaching your table at your relatives wedding her hands often reach her dainty neck as she adjusts her gorgeous diamond necklace. You greet her warmly yet you feel so inferior. Your heart secretly wishes your husband could oneday afford to surprise you with such a stunning gift. 
You stop at the robot and the luxury car next to you hoots and you notice your friend driving the latest BMW.You greet each other and she speeds off. Your heart is disappointed as your car just broke down this morning and you had to call your brother to help you kick start it again. 
You enter a beautiful sea facing villa,the kind of houses top billing feature. Your  sister in law is the perfect host at their house warming.Your heart secretly wishes this was your house and your mind betrays your husband for a minute as you feel you should have married a more affluent and wealthy man. 
Remember all that glitters is not gold, silver,diamonds or platinum… 
The trip to Paris was an escape from her depression as she and her husband try to save their marriage.They have been failing to conceive for many years unfortunately this may just be their last holiday together. 
The necklace your cousin flaunted on her neck was never a gift it was an apology from her husbamd for the date he went on with his secretary and for the suggestive messages to other woman that his wife found on his phone. Her forgiveness was very expensive. 
The car your friend cheerfully sped away in is a gift from her beloved father as he has been diagnosed with cancer and although  he did not tell her as yet,he just wanted to see her happy for a few weeks before she breaks down on hearing about his illness. 
The villa your brother in law bought was a thank you to his wife for always being his rock of support when he needed to build his business she used to make savouries and rotis to sell in order for him to save a capital.Now that his business is thriving he wants her to rest in luxury. 
Never lose your sukoon(peace) and burn your heart  with jealousy and greed over the blessings that Allah has bestowed on others as Allah has also given them battles you may not know of to fight daily. Your happiness lies in what you have and your reward lies in being grateful for what you have.. 
All that glitters may just be a shiny tin clip amongst the rubble… 
Be genuinely happy for others and it will come back to you a million times more.. Aameen.

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Carrot Parrot


Ask our children:

1. Why do we learn the knowledge of Deen?

2. Would you like to just know all the names of the different sweets and chocolates, or would you like to eat them as well?

Now tell them the story:

Ilyaas had a pretty pet parrot. Its favourite food was fresh juicy carrots. Every day, Ilyaas would make it repeat four sentences, over and over again. Every time it said the sentences correctly, Ilyaas would give it a big, juicy carrot. The four sentences were, “The man with the cap”, “He has a trap”, “He will place the carrot”, “Don’t go there my parrot!”

Ilyaas loved his parrot and he looked after it very well. He would play with the parrot and he never allowed anyone to take it out of its cage, because he was frightened that someone might steal it.

One night, Ilyaas was fast asleep. Suddenly, in the middle of the night, he heard his parrot speaking. He woke up and quickly went towards the cage. As he went closer, he heard his parrot saying, “The man with the cap”, “He has a trap”, “He will place the carrot”, “Don’t go there my parrot!” The parrot continued repeating these four sentences and as Ilyaas was tired, he left it and went back to sleep.

Early the next morning, after Ilyaas read his Fajr Salaah, he went to see his parrot, and the parrot was still repeating these four sentences. When Ilyaas heard this, he became very happy with the parrot because it knew the four sentences so well. He then thought to himself, “Now that the parrot knows these four sentences, it will be impossible for anyone to catch it and steal it.” Therefore, Ilyaas finally opened the cage and allowed the parrot to come out.

The parrot flew and sat on Ilyaas’s shoulder, then it flew and sat on the chair, and then it returned and sat on Ilyaas’s head. Ilyaas was filled with joy to see his parrot free, and the parrot was also enjoying its freedom.

One afternoon, the parrot was all alone at home. As it looked around, it noticed that the window was open. So it flew out of the house and sat on a branch of the tree in the garden. Just then, a man wearing a cap sneaked into the garden to steal the parrot. As he sneaked in, the parrot on the tree immediately shouted, “The man with the cap!” When the man heard this, he was shocked and wondered how the parrot had spotted him. As the man began to place his trap, the parrot said, “He has a trap.” Now the man was even more shocked. How did the parrot know that it was a trap? Anyway, he still placed the trap. The parrot then said, “He will place the carrot!” The man was now lost for words. How did the parrot know that he had a carrot in his pocket? Despite this, the man placed the carrot inside the trap and moved away. The parrot finally shouted out, “Don’t go there my parrot!”

Although the parrot had said these four sentences, when the parrot saw that the man was gone, it flew down from the tree and went to eat the carrot. Just as it bit the carrot, the trap closed on it and caught it. As soon as it was captured, the man came and took it away.

After some time, Ilyaas returned home and saw that his parrot was gone. He cried and cried for no more. His mother comforted him and told him, “Ilyaas, my son! Instead of crying, we need to learn from the parrot. It knew the four sentences and it could say them very well, but the sentences were only on its tongue and were not in its heart. That is why when the man with the trap actually came, it did not know what to do and fell into the trap. We are just like the parrot. We know what is right and what is wrong and can even tell it to others and teach them. But if it is not in our hearts, then when Shaitaan places a trap for us, we will do the wrong thing and fall into the trap.”

Lessons:

1. Islam should not just be on our tongues. We need to be living Islam.

2. Having knowledge is not the goal. The goal is to please Allah Ta‘ala by practicing on this knowledge.

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A Partnership of Improvement


There are many different partnerships in this world, and each has its own purpose. The purpose of a business partnership is to make money, while the purpose of a political partnership is to gain dominance, power and rulership.

Similarly, nikaah is a life-long partnership which has multiple objectives. If raising the Muslims of tomorrow and gaining financial and social security are considered as objectives, then one of the primary objectives of nikaah, without a doubt, is definitely that of the imaan and Deen of the spouses to become complete and remain protected. Hence, a marriage in which each passing day finds the Deeni condition of the spouses better than it was the previous day is a successful marriage.  Conversely, a marriage in which the husband and wife invite, tempt and encourage one another to engage in sin is an unsuccessful marriage.

Nabi (sallallahu ‘alaihi wasallam) made du‘aa saying, “May Allah Ta‘ala shower His mercy upon the man who stands during the night, performing salaah, and he awakes his wife (so that she may perform salaah as well). If she resists (awaking), then he sprinkles water on her face (to assist her in awaking). May Allah Ta‘ala shower His mercy on that woman who stands during the night, performing salaah, and she awakes her husband (so that he may perform salaah as well). If he resists (awaking), she sprinkles water on his face (to assist him in awaking).” (Sunan Abi Dawood #1308)

We should thus all strive to encourage one another to strengthen our Deen. However, we should bear in mind that different people are encouraged in different ways. It will not be appropriate for one to sprinkle water on the face of her husband, at the time of tahajjud, who is in a deep sleep, after a long day at work. Similarly, a husband will probably not react positively if his wife corrects him in front of his children. Hence, when encouraging one another, we should always first think carefully and try to determine the method of encouragement that will promote the most positive result, as it is the whom person we want to improve, not a point that we want to prove.