ATITUDE OF GRATITUDE
She opens her wardrobe. Two dozen dresses of red, yellow, orange, pink and you-name-it colours are hanging in there. In another section of the closet a countless number of styles of footwear fill the space. And then another part of the closet brims with accessories! After a cursory glance, she slams the door shut. “Mom, I have nothing to wear for the function. I’ve been begging you to take me shopping since ages. You never listen to me. What do I do now?”
He is rummaging the fridge for the fourth time. Pizza, chocolate, ice-cream, fruits and juices are stuffed inside. He leaves the kitchen despondently. “There’s really nothing much to eat in here. Let’s go to the cafe and have some decent food today.”
She wakes up with the same feelings of depression and dread. Thoughts of suicide are again floating in her mind. She is married to a handsome man, with two lovely kids, a palatial home, two cars, everything most woman can only dream of! Apparently, life is perfect but there is “something” missing. It is just because she is not married to the man of her dreams.
He thinks his life sucks. He is 17. He has an iPhone, Core i7 Dell, R1, 000 monthly pocket money but according to him, his life sucks. Unable to focus on his textbook, he slams it shut and starts pacing in the room as he thinks out aloud. “If my friend can own a Jaguar, why can’t I? Everything sucks.”
Do any of these scenarios sound familiar?
As we grow up, we get tuned to be ungrateful and not to see the blessings in our life. This happens to be nothing but the doings of materialism of course masterminded by shaytaan himself. We harness all our energy and attention towards finding out what we lack. This is really ironic because the more we focus on scarcity, the more we tend to attract it.
You tend to get what you focus on. Being ungrateful to Allah Ta’ala adversely affects our productivity as the mind – which is in a negative state – can hardly contemplate the productivity in life. It goes without saying that a mind that is always looking for shortcomings is not the best tool for a productive lifestyle – be it spiritually, physically, socially, or emotionally.
Research has shown that through our thoughts and emotions, we emit powerful signals; these signals have the ability to attract signals of the same frequency. In other words, our positive signals will attract all other positive signals and same goes true for negative signals.
Whenever we are being ungrateful, we are in the negative state of mind and allowing the self-defeating thoughts to emit all sorts of negative energy from us. These can include thoughts such as “I never seem to have enough of money, “I can never be healthy”, or “I can never find a perfect husband”. This will lead us to attract more negative energy.
Ultimately, we will end up becoming a black hole of despair and getting what we do not want. All the worries, arguments and frustration lead to more of the same. Considering all this, if we want to attract more signals of what we desire to experience, for example, peace, joy, harmony, ease, prosperity, etc., then why not choose our thoughts consciously and carefully? The more you focus on what you have in life, the more you will attract it. In other words, the more grateful you become, the more Allah Ta’ala will bless you.
Today, non-Muslim researchers have discovered these secrets in the name of “natural laws”, while these “open secrets” were given to us in the Qur’aan 1,400 years ago.
Psychologists and philosophers have painstakingly conducted research and have come up with new theories and ideas. This so-called newly discovered information was presented to us in the Qur’aan in no uncertain terms. Allah Ta’ala promises that the grateful will be given more:
“And [remember] when your Lord proclaimed, ‘If you are grateful, I will surely increase you [in favour]; but if you deny (are ungrateful), indeed, My punishment is severe.” [ Chapter 14, Verse 7]
Robert A. Emmons from the University of California Davis and Micheal E McCullogh from the University of Miami conducted a long-term research project designed to study the effects of gratitude. Here are some of their findings:
- In an experimental comparison, those who kept gratitude journals on a weekly basis, exercised more regularly, reported fewer physical symptoms, felt better about their lives as a whole and were more optimistic about the upcoming week compared with those who recorded hassles or neutral life events.
- Participants who kept gratitude lists were more likely to have made progress towards important personal goals over a two-month period compared with subjects in the other experimental conditions.
- Grateful people reported higher levels of positive emotions, life satisfaction, vitality, optimism and lower levels of depression and stress.
This is a readymade formula for attracting more of what you want in life.
Why is gratitude such a key ingredient in a successful life? Does it make sense now?
Gratitude helps us make the shift. Consequently, we are able to attract more good, more love, more joy, more money, as well as better health and blissful relationships in your life. Gratitude is one of the easiest and most frequently used methods to alter the signals one is emitting. What we need to master is the attitude of gratitude – the attitude of appreciating everything in life especially when half the world today is deprived of the very basics of life!
It is well known that salaah, one of the pillars of Islam, is incomplete without Suratul Faatihah. It begins with expressing our gratitude to Allah Ta’ala for the countless blessings He has showered upon us. Have you ever noticed that almost every duaa taught by the Prophet Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam also start with the same expression of gratitude, “Alhamdulillah”? If the duaa does not start with the expression of gratitude then the dua invariably carries the element of gratitude somewhere along the line.
The day starts with the morning supplication, “Alhamdulillahilladhi ahyana…” (All praise and thanks be to the One who gave us life…). What is the significance of this? Allah Ta’ala wants you to start your day in His remembrance but more thanking Him for the life he has given you on this day. This can put us in a super charged state, attracting ample happiness and abundance in life.
Hadrat Abu Yahya Suhaib bin Sinan Radiyallaahu Anhu reported that: The Messenger of Allah Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam said,
“How amazing is the case of a believer; there is good for him in everything and this applies only to a believer. If prosperity attends him, he expresses gratitude to Allah and that is good for him; and if adversity befalls him, he endures it patiently and that is better for him”.[Muslim]
It is reported that some of the Companions of the Holy Prophet Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam were grateful for the calamities that they faced and presented their gratitude to Allah Ta’ala for not letting something worse befall them. Now that is the attitude of gratitude! We cannot go wrong with this attitude especially when it is held in esteem in the sight of Allah Ta’ala!