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Doggy Goat


Ask our children:

1. Can we keep a pet dog?

2. Do Muslims lie and steal?

Now tell them the story:

There was an old farmer who had a pet goat. He used to play with it, feed it and make it sleep in his room every night. One day, he decided to take his goat for a walk. As he left his home, three hungry crooks saw him with his goat. They made a plan to steal the goat and have a big braai.

The first crook came to the farmer and said, “Wow! What a big dog you have!” The farmer became angry and shouted, “You fool! Can’t you see that it’s a goat?” The crook said, “No! It’s a dog!” and he walked away.

After a while, the second crook came to the farmer and asked, “Where did you buy such a funny looking dog?” The farmer was now a little confused, so he looked at his goat and replied, “No! It’s my pet goat!” The crook said, “No! It’s a dog!” and he walked away.

After a while, the third crook came to the farmer and burst out laughing. The farmer asked him, “Why are you laughing? The crook replied, “This is the first time in my life that I am seeing a dog with two horns and a beard!” The farmer was now sure that his pet goat was actually a dog. So he thought to himself, “I definitely cannot keep this pet dog in my home, because the angels will not enter my home.”

So the simple farmer left the goat on the side of the road and returned home alone. The three greedy crooks quickly grabbed the goat and took it home for a yummy braai.

Lessons:

1. If we hear the same thing all the time, we will slowly start to believe it. May Allah Ta‘ala save us, if we are watching TV, TV, TV, all the time, and listening to music, music, music, all the time, playing with the tablet, tablet, tablet, all the time, reading comics or novels all the time, then these things are going to fill our minds and hearts and make us forget Allah Ta‘ala and Deen. Therefore, we need to change our life to salaah, salaah, salaah, Quraan, Quraan, Quraan, zikr, zikr, zikr and du‘aa, du‘aa, du‘aa, so that these things become our life.

2. Muslims should not keep dogs as pets.

3. Muslims should not lie and steal. 

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Nurturing the Relationship


There are few methods that express love as eloquently as speech. Hence, a newly-wed couple who have the misfortune of living apart for some time will often compensate for their separation by remaining glued to their phones, speaking to each other for hours on end. On the contrary, when two people have hatred and enmity for one another, they make it a point to avoid speaking to each other.

During the month of Ramadhaan, Muslims the world over remained glued to the Quraan Majeed, earnestly conversing with Allah Ta‘ala. The more they recited the Quraan Majeed, the more their love for Allah Ta‘ala grew and the closer to Him they became. However, how many of us have continued to converse with Allah Ta‘ala, through reciting the Quraan Majeed daily, as we used to in the month of Ramadhaan? Similarly, how many of us are still conversing with Allah Ta‘ala through the direct-line of du‘aa, as we used to during the month of Ramadhaan?

When a person has a close, bosom friend, and this friend suddenly gives him the cold shoulder, it greatly perturbs and hurts him as his beloved friend is now treating him as an enemy would. When we earnestly conversed with Allah Ta‘ala and did our best to gain His nearness in the month of Ramadhaan, then what message is sent out when after the month of Ramadhaan, we seldom recite the Quraan Majeed and rarely raise our hands in du‘aa? Are we showing Allah Ta‘ala a cold shoulder’ (may Allah forbid!)?

Just as we would not appreciate our near and dear ones suddenly abandoning us, we should not suddenly abandon our relationship with Allah Ta‘ala, who is the Most Beloved and Dear to us. Instead, if we strive to maintain our relationship with Allah Ta‘ala, our love and bond with Him will grow until the next Ramadhaan, during which it will be boosted and increase even further. In this manner, we will become closer and closer to Allah Ta‘ala until He eventually summons us from this world.

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Knife Defence

By Salim Badat

The unfortunate fact is that anyone holding a knife has a tremendous advantage over you, assuming you are not armed with a weapon. But there are practical guidelines that can dramatically improve your chances of surviving a vicious knife attack.

Beware! Most of the information about knife defence is wrong and will get you seriously injured or possibly killed in a self defence altercation!

Knife Defence Street Survival Tips

What follows are several knife defence tips that are taught in my self defence system. It is my hope that these knife defence tips can help reduce your chances of being the victim.

BE AWARE OF KNIVES.

Street criminals can hide knives or edged weapons anywhere Situational awareness is one of the best tools you have to prevent a knife attack from taking place.”

KNOW WHY CRIMINALS PREFER KNIVES OVER OTHER WEAPONS.

Here are some reasons:

  • Knife attacks are silent.

  • Knives don’t misfire or jam.

  • Knives do not require reloading.

  • Knives are easier to conceal.

  • Knives are easy to dispose.

  • Knives are symbolic to psychopaths.

  • Knives leave no ballistic clues.

  • Courts tend to be more lenient with knives than guns.

  • Knives are inexpensive.

  • Makeshift knives are relatively easy to create.

  • Street criminals know that very few citizens possess knife defence skills and more importantly criminals know it is very difficult to defend against a knife attack.

TRY TO ESCAPE FROM A KNIFE ATTACK IF POSSIBLE.

If you have the possibility to run and escape during the course of a knife attack, do it immediately! Try to quickly scan your environment for possible escape routes. Don’t let your ego or pride trap you into believing that it’s cowardly to run from a knife attack.

CREATE DISTANCE BETWEEN YOU AND THE KNIFE ATTACKER.

When unarmed and defending against a knife attack, try to create as much distance as you can between you and the knife. Distance is a critical component of knife defence because it enhances your defensive reaction time and allows you to control your tactical options.

Keep in mind that the only time you want to be close to a knife is for disarming purposes and then only if this situation is absolutely unavoidable.

DON’T PANIC WHEN FACED WITH A KNIFE ATTACK.

People naturally freeze up when they are faced with a knife attack. This only makes it easier for your assailant to accomplish his nefarious mission. You must rise to the occasion and conjure all of spirit and courage to ward off the effects of fear, anxiety, and stress. You must be determined to fight your adversary to the death if necessary. The best way to prepare yourself for the psychological and emotional aspects of a knife attack is to regularly engage in realistic knife attack scenarios.”

RESPECT THE KNIFE.

The entertainment industry has done us a great disservice to the public by making everyone believe that a knife-wielding assailant can be neutralized easily with one swift kick, shoulder throw, or punch. It is not like that in the real world of self defence!

USE MAKESHIFT WEAPONS AGAINST THE KNIFE ATTACKER.. When confronted by a knife attacker, scan your environment for any makeshift weapon, especially for ones that can safely shield against stabs and slashes.

In Conclusion

Knife defence skills and techniques must always be practical, simple and effective! The academy is conducting a knife defence workshop on the 14 September. 2016

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Internet Abuse


Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

I was brought up not allowed to use the internet, watch TV, etc. However, I recently started a course which required the use of the internet. I try my best to only use it for the work required, but time and time again, I end up using it for other stuff. Though it’s not always haraam stuff that I use the internet for, it does waste time. Also, lots of times, I get caught up in watching YouTube videos and though I know it’s not right, I just seem unable to stop. No matter how many promises I make not to use it for anything other than course related work, in the end, I still do.

If Moulana could please advise on how to stop this as I am aware it’s wrong and want to stop, but no matter how much I try, I still get caught up in it. 

Answer:

Bismihi Ta‘ala

Wa ‘alaikumus salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barkaatuh

Respected Sister in Islam

We commend you on your concern and honesty in this matter, which is unfortunately taken very lightly by most people.

It is best for you to totally avoid using the internet unless you have a genuine need to do so.  However, if this cannot be done, then take the following steps in order to bring incorrect use under control:

1. Instead of using the internet in a secluded place in the home, use it in a common place, where others may walk past and be able to see what you are doing. The fear of them seeing you misusing the internet will perhaps be a type of a deterrent.

2. Impose a “penalty” upon yourself for the wrong usage. For example, for every 5 minutes wrong usage, impose upon yourself to make 4 rakaats of nafl salaah and give R20 in sadaqah. This must be discharged within 24 hours. This is only effective if you strictly fulfill the penalty. Also, impose on yourself that when you use the internet wrongly, for at least 2 days thereafter you will not access the internet or use any of the devices, even if your course work is affected.

3. Before using the internet, imagine that the Angel of Death is before you and may snatch your soul at any moment. This, exactly, is our reality i.e. our souls can be taken at any moment. Ask yourself, “Would I like to pass away while looking at this?”

4. Even if you slip a hundred times, do not lose hope and become despondent. Instead, continuously repent by crying to Allah Ta‘ala, and renew your determination to abstain from this wrong. Always turn to Allah Ta‘ala in du‘aa and beg Him to help you, as nothing can be achieved without His assistance.    

May Allah Ta‘ala make it easy for you to live a life in His total obedience, aameen.  

Answered by:

Uswatul Muslimah Panel of ‘Ulama

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

ATITUDE OF GRATITUDE

 

She opens her wardrobe. Two dozen dresses of red, yellow, orange, pink and you-name-it colours are hanging in there. In another section of the closet a countless number of styles of footwear fill the space. And then another part of the closet brims with accessories! After a cursory glance, she slams the door shut. 
“Mom, I have nothing to wear for the function. I’ve been begging you to take me shopping since ages. You never listen to me. What do I do now?”

 

He is rummaging the fridge for the fourth time. Pizza, chocolate, ice-cream, fruits and juices are stuffed inside. He leaves the kitchen despondently. “There’s really nothing much to eat in here. Let’s go to the cafe and have some decent food today.”

She wakes up with the same feelings of depression and dread. Thoughts of suicide are again floating in her mind. She is married to a handsome man, with two lovely kids, a palatial home, two cars, everything most woman can only dream of! Apparently, life is perfect but there is “something” missing. It is just because she is not married to the man of her dreams.

He thinks his life sucks. He is 17. He has an iPhone, Core i7 Dell, R1, 000 monthly pocket money but according to him, his life sucks. Unable to focus on his textbook, he slams it shut and starts pacing in the room as he thinks out aloud. 
“If my friend can own a Jaguar, why can’t I? Everything sucks.”

Do any of these scenarios sound familiar?

As we grow up, we get tuned to be ungrateful and not to see the blessings in our life. This happens to be nothing but the doings of materialism of course masterminded by shaytaan himself. We harness all our energy and attention towards finding out what we lack. This is really ironic because the more we focus on scarcity, the more we tend to attract it.

You tend to get what you focus on. Being ungrateful to Allah Ta’ala adversely affects our productivity as the mind – which is in a negative state – can hardly contemplate the productivity in life. It goes without saying that a mind that is always looking for shortcomings is not the best tool for a productive lifestyle – be it spiritually, physically, socially, or emotionally.

Research has shown that through our thoughts and emotions, we emit powerful signals; these signals have the ability to attract signals of the same frequency. In other words, our positive signals will attract all other positive signals and same goes true for negative signals.

Whenever we are being ungrateful, we are in the negative state of mind and allowing the self-defeating thoughts to emit all sorts of negative energy from us. These can include thoughts such as “I never seem to have enough of money, “I can never be healthy”, or “I can never find a perfect husband”. This will lead us to attract more negative energy.

Ultimately, we will end up becoming a black hole of despair and getting what we do not want. All the worries, arguments and frustration lead to more of the same. Considering all this, if we want to attract more signals of what we desire to experience, for example, peace, joy, harmony, ease, prosperity, etc., then why not choose our thoughts consciously and carefully? The more you focus on what you have in life, the more you will attract it. In other words, the more grateful you become, the more Allah Ta’ala will bless you.

Today, non-Muslim researchers have discovered these secrets in the name of “natural laws”, while these “open secrets” were given to us in the Qur’aan 1,400 years ago.

Psychologists and philosophers have painstakingly conducted research and have come up with new theories and ideas. This so-called newly discovered information was presented to us in the Qur’aan in no uncertain terms. Allah Ta’ala promises that the grateful will be given more:

“And [remember] when your Lord proclaimed, ‘If you are grateful, I will surely increase you [in favour]; but if you deny (are ungrateful), indeed, My punishment is severe.” [ Chapter 14, Verse 7]

Robert A. Emmons from the University of California Davis and Micheal E McCullogh 
from the University of Miami conducted a long-term research project designed to study the effects of gratitude. Here are some of their findings:

  • In an experimental comparison, those who kept gratitude journals on a weekly basis, exercised more regularly, reported fewer physical symptoms, felt better about their lives as a whole and were more optimistic about the upcoming week compared with those who recorded hassles or neutral life events.
  • Participants who kept gratitude lists were more likely to have made progress towards important personal goals over a two-month period compared with subjects in the other experimental conditions.
  • Grateful people reported higher levels of positive emotions, life satisfaction, vitality, optimism and lower levels of depression and stress.

This is a readymade formula for attracting more of what you want in life.

Why is gratitude such a key ingredient in a successful life? Does it make sense now?

Gratitude helps us make the shift. Consequently, we are able to attract more good, more love, more joy, more money, as well as better health and blissful relationships in your life. Gratitude is one of the easiest and most frequently used methods to alter the signals one is emitting. What we need to master is the attitude of gratitude – the attitude of appreciating everything in life especially when half the world today is deprived of the very basics of life!

 

It is well known that salaah, one of the pillars of Islam, is incomplete without Suratul Faatihah. It begins with expressing our gratitude to Allah Ta’ala for the countless blessings He has showered upon us. Have you ever noticed that almost every duaa taught by the Prophet Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam also start with the same expression of gratitude, “Alhamdulillah”? If the duaa does not start with the expression of gratitude then the dua invariably carries the element of gratitude somewhere along the line.

The day starts with the morning supplication, “Alhamdulillahilladhi ahyana…” (All praise and thanks be to the One who gave us life…). What is the significance of this? Allah Ta’ala wants you to start your day in His remembrance but more thanking Him for the life he has given you on this day. This can put us in a super charged state, attracting ample happiness and abundance in life.

Hadrat Abu Yahya Suhaib bin Sinan Radiyallaahu Anhu reported that: The Messenger of Allah Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam said,

“How amazing is the case of a believer; there is good for him in everything and this applies only to a believer. If prosperity attends him, he expresses gratitude to Allah and that is good for him; and if adversity befalls him, he endures it patiently and that is better for him”.[Muslim]

It is reported that some of the Companions of the Holy Prophet Sallallaahu Alaihi Wa Sallam were grateful for the calamities that they faced and presented their gratitude to Allah Ta’ala for not letting something worse befall them. Now that is the attitude of gratitude! We cannot go wrong with this attitude especially when it is held in esteem in the sight of Allah Ta’ala!

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ALLAH IS WATCHING YOU, even when you oblivious of this!

A woman usually baked bread for members of her family daily and an extra one for a hungry passerby. She kept the extra bread on the Window-sill, for whosoever would take it away. Every day, a hunch-back came and took away the bread. Instead of expressing gratitude, he muttered the following words as he went his way:

“The evil you do remains with you: The good you do, comes back to you!” This went on, day after day. Every day, the hunch-back came, picked up the bread and uttered the words: “The evil you do, remains with you: The good you do, comes back to you!” The woman felt irritated. “Not a word of gratitude,” she said to herself. “Every day this hunch-back utters this jingle! What does he mean? ”

One day, out of anger, she decided to do away with him.” I shall get rid of this hunch-back,” she said. And what did she do? She added poison to the bread she prepared for him! As she was about to keep it on the window sill, her hands trembled. “What is this I am doing?” she said. Immediately she threw the bread into the fire, prepared another one and kept it on the window- sill. As usual, the hunch-back came, picked up the bread and muttered the words: “The evil you do, remains with you: The good you do, comes back to you!” The hunch-back proceeded on his way, blissfully unaware of the war raging in the mind of the woman.

Every day, as the woman placed the bread on the window-sill, she offered a prayer for her son who had gone to a distant place to seek his fortune. For many months, she had no news from him. All she could do was to pray for his safe return, which she did daily. Then one evening, there was a knock on the door. As she opened it, she was surprised to find her son standing in the doorway. He had grown thin and lean. His garments were tattered and torn. He was hungry, starved and weak. As he saw his mother, he said, “Mom, it’s a miracle I’m here. While I was but a mile away, I was so hungry that I collapsed. I would have died, but just then an old hunch-back passed by. I begged of him for a small part of his food, and he was kind enough to give me his whole bread.”

“As he gave it to me, he said, “This is what I eat everyday: today, I shall give it to you, for your need is greater than mine!” As the mother heard those words, her face turned pale and red. She leaned against the door for support.

She remembered the poisoned bread that she had made that morning. Had she not burnt it in the fire, it would have been eaten by her own son, and he would have lost his life! It was then that she realized the significance of the words:
 

The evil you do remains with you, The good you do, comes back to you!”
Do Good; don’t ever stop doing Good, even if it’s not appreciated at that time for like no bad misses Allah Ta’ala, no good remains unacknowledged and unrewarded by Allah Ta’ala.

بسم الله الرحمن الرحيم

Refuting ISIS  by Shaykh Muhammad al-Yaqoubi

Why read this book:

ISIS is trying to brand Islam. People are judging Islam by the action of Islamic states. They give distorted reference from Quran and hadith and People who don’t know about Islam or know very little tend to think bad of Islam. ISIS has based its ideology on a superficial and literalist approach to the Sacred Texts of Islam – the Holy Qur’an and the Prophetic Tradition, it is trying to lure people to join its group, promising caliphate. ISIS has not only manipulated the religion but has brainwash angry young Muslims, who have little knowledge of Islamic theology and jurisprudence. There is a big difference of opinion even among Muslims with regards to ISIS.

This book gives a plethora of proofs that demonstrates ISIS’ actions do not represent Sunni Islam and its claims are based on clear fallacies. Authentic quotes and references are given that destroy the allegations of ISIS. Unlike similar books on the abstract subject of terrorism, this book is written by keeping in mind those people whose encounter with ISIS is not a distant news report but their bitter ground reality.

The book is to appeal to five types of audiences:

(1) The vulnerable Muslim youth who sees in the ISIS propaganda a religiously sanctioned outlet for his machismo?

(2) The ISIS neophyte who is in dire need of weaning out of his terrible liminality by demonstrating that the ISIS ‘gangster’ methodology has no place in Islam;

(3) The average Muslim who is perplexed by some of the theological and legal challenges brought about as a result of the emergence of ISIS;

(4) Fighters of the Free Syrian Army (FSA), to pacify their conscience that not only is it Islamically legitimate to fight ISIS but it’s a religious obligation for those in the region to do so; finally

(5) To silence the annoyingly clanging crescendo of Western politicians and critics that Muslim scholars are not speaking out against ISIS.

The original contribution and the most interesting part of the book is its first chapter: ‘In the words of ISIS’. In this chapter, the author is quoting, evaluating and critiquing quotations taken directly from ISIS literature. The media bias against Muslims has created a deep suspicion amongst Muslims regarding anything which the media reports about Islam. This has led many Muslims to take a non-committed position regarding the atrocities of ISIS as they are reported in the media. Shaykh Yaqoubi’s critical interrogation of ISIS literature, his political activism and intimate knowledge of the conditions in the Levant coupled with his deep understanding of the Islamic scholarly tradition should leave no doubts in the minds of Muslims that the way of ISIS is not the way of Islam.