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Blind to their Blindness

One of the greatest tragedies of today is that of people who lack the correct understanding and knowledge of Deen, yet feel that they are qualified to hold their own opinion and want people to refer to them. Sadly, this ignorance is generally ‘incurable’, as the ignorant person refuses to acknowledge his ignorance so that he can take the steps to remedy it. Below is an incident which although humorous and an extreme example, it nevertheless aptly describes the plight of such people:

A man once passed by a group of people who were beating a certain person. Seeing an old man among them, he asked him, “What crime did this man commit that you are beating him in this manner?” The old man replied, “This man reviled and spoke ill of the sleepers of the cave!”

Finding this to be strange, he asked the old man, “And who are the sleepers of the cave?” The old man was surprised and asked, “Are you not a Muslim? How is it that you do not know the sleepers of the cave?” The man responded, “I am a Muslim, but I like to learn and that is why I am asking you.” The old man then answered, “The sleepers of the cave are Abu Bakr, ‘Umar and Mu‘aawiyah (radhiyallahu ‘anhum) – the very same Mu‘aawiyah (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) who is among those who carry the throne of Allah Ta‘ala!”

Hearing this ridiculous and obviously incorrect answer, the man said in sarcasm, “I am amazed at your knowledge of people and religion!” The old man, failing to catch the sarcasm, proudly replied, “Yes, you should always refer to learned people (like myself) when you need to know something!”

At that point, another person present began to argue with his friend regarding whether Abu Bakr (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) was greater or ‘Umar (radhiyallahu ‘anhu). When his friend confidently replied that ‘Umar (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) was greater, he asked him, “What is your proof? How do you know that he is greater?” The friend answered, “When Abu Bakr (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) passed away, ‘Umar (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) attended his janaazah, but when ‘Umar (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) passed away, Abu Bakr (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) did not attend his janaazah. Hence, ‘Umar (radhiyallahu ‘anhu) must be greater!”

(Akhbaarul Hamqaa wal Mughaffaleen libnil Jowzi pg. 145)

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2 necessary qualities in a Saalik

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Hazrat Ml. Maseehullah Khan رحمه الله said that two qualities are necessary for a Saalik (a person on the path of Tasawwuf). Hazrat Ml. Abdool Haq Makada رحمه الله recently quoted and explained this in his talk.

1. Dawaame ta’at (constant obedience to Allah): Anything that compromises our love for Allah should be avoided. Sometimes we enjoy dhikr, talks and kayfiyaat, but true reformation is not being made. We are not looking into our hearts searching for what we need to change and how. A sign of this is our anger and weaknesses continue to reign supreme in our lives, despite all the talks we listen to and the deeni efforts we are involved in.

A Saalik does not just want Jannah, he wants to be from the Muqarraboon (close servants of Allah). That is why he became a Saalik in the first place. In every juncture in life when he is presented with multiple options, he should ask himself, which option will take me closer to Allah? That is the path he should take, for that will lead him to his goal of becoming from the Muqarraboon. For example, if a person makes the intention to pray Ishraaq after Fajr but he needs the toilet and then he decides to sleep, that is permissible.

But for a Saalik, it is undesirable. He should use the toilet, repeat his whudu and pray Ishraaq for that is the option that will take him closer to Allah. However, if he is extremely tired that he cannot keep his eyes open or he is unwell, then he should rest. Do not go overboard as the body has a priority over us too. Sometimes, those who go overboard struggle to maintain their amaal, whereas the most beloved deeds to Allah are those done regularly, even if they are little. Thus, he should follow the guidance of a Shaikh who will teach him balance.

2. Kathrate dhikr (remembering Allah abundantly): A Saalik cuts down on futile activities, excessive social interactions and unnecessary talk. This is because they waste the time that could have been spent in dhikr, reading or serving Deen. Kathrate dhikr leads to dawaame ta’at, because if you are always in the remembrance of Allah, you will always strive to please Him. Dhikr is not only with the tongue. It starts there, but it has to develop until the heart, mind and tongue are all synchronized. Then our actions will be correct and in line with Shariah. Otherwise, one who does Dhikr with the tongue alone can be involved in sins like showing off. Whereas when the mind is conscious of Allah watching and the heart is cautious, then a Saalik is less likely to sin. May Allah grant us the tawfiq to develop these qualities, Aameen.

— Hazrat Ml. Dawood Seedat حفظه اللّٰه

Above is an extract from Hazrat’s talk on 17/12/18 in Masjid-ut-Taqwa, Pietermaritzburg. To listen to the full talk, please click here.

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Passion to Spend in the Path of Allah

(Ummul Baneen [rahimahallah] – Part Two)

Hailing from the ruling family and being married to the ruler of the time, Ummul Baneen (rahimahallah) had no shortage of wealth at her disposal. Nevertheless, when it came to wealth and spending, it was her passion to spend in the path of Allah Ta‘ala – not on herself. Hence, she was renowned for her charity and her spirit for assisting people in need.

In this regard, it seems as though Ummul Baneen (rahimahallah) followed in her father’s footsteps and perhaps acquired this quality from him. The following statement of her father, ‘Abdul ‘Azeez bin Marwaan, sufficiently highlights his spirit for charity. He says: “How surprising it is that a person has imaan, and is convinced that Allah Ta‘ala provides for him and will replace that which he spends in His path, yet he still holds back his wealth from spending and thus deprives himself of abundant rewards!”

As for Ummul Baneen (rahimahullah), her own statement speaks volumes for the spirit of charity that burnt in her heart. She mentioned: “Every person has a passion in life, and my passion is to spend on people. By Allah! To maintain ties and relationships and to show compassion and sympathy to people is more beloved to me than delicious food at the time of hunger, and a cool drink at the time of thirst.”

Some examples of her spending in the path of Allah Ta‘ala are:

– She would free one slave every week.

– She would donate one horse to be used in the path of Allah Ta‘ala every week. (Some narrations mention that she would free a slave and donate a horse every day, not every week!).

– When she would call her friends to spend time with her, then before they would leave, she would give them exquisite garments to wear. She would also hand gold coins to them and say, “The clothing is for you to keep, and the gold coins are for you to distribute among the poor among you.”

Similarly, she condemned miserliness saying, “How despicable is miserliness! If miserliness was a path, I would not tread it, and even if it was the finest clothing, I would not wear it.” She also mentioned, “The height of miserliness is where a person is too miserly to even purchase Jannah for himself.”

(Al-Bidaayah wan Nihaayah vol. 9, pg. 207, Sifatus Safwah vol. 2, pg. 430 and Al-Mahaasin wal Masaawi vol. 1, pg. 144)

Lessons:

1. One of the greatest challenges is that of protecting our hearts so that they are not overcome by the love of wealth. If our hearts remain protected, we will spend the wealth in the correct avenues and thus become closer to Allah Ta‘ala. However, if our hearts become saturated with the love of wealth, then this very same wealth will propel us towards sin through spending it in impermissible avenues and using it to show off, etc.

2. It is an undeniable reality that children are a reflection of their parents, in their features and in their ways as well. Hence, if the children grow up in a home where the parents are always giving sadaqah, engaged in the recitation of the Quraan Majeed, performing salaah, etc., then these very same qualities rub off onto the children. Hence, we need to be practical examples for our children.

3. Spending in the path of Allah Ta‘ala is an action that earns one ongoing rewards. To earn these rewards, we do not need to be millionaires. Rather, each person can spend and contribute according to his own means – even if they be little. Allah Ta‘ala looks at the heart with which the contribution is given. Hence, when there is an opportunity to spend in His path, we should hasten to spend whatever we can manage.

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Passion to Spend in the Path of Allah

(Ummul Baneen [rahimahallah] – Part Two)

Hailing from the ruling family and being married to the ruler of the time, Ummul Baneen (rahimahallah) had no shortage of wealth at her disposal. Nevertheless, when it came to wealth and spending, it was her passion to spend in the path of Allah Ta‘ala – not on herself. Hence, she was renowned for her charity and her spirit for assisting people in need.

In this regard, it seems as though Ummul Baneen (rahimahallah) followed in her father’s footsteps and perhaps acquired this quality from him. The following statement of her father, ‘Abdul ‘Azeez bin Marwaan, sufficiently highlights his spirit for charity. He says: “How surprising it is that a person has imaan, and is convinced that Allah Ta‘ala provides for him and will replace that which he spends in His path, yet he still holds back his wealth from spending and thus deprives himself of abundant rewards!”

As for Ummul Baneen (rahimahullah), her own statement speaks volumes for the spirit of charity that burnt in her heart. She mentioned: “Every person has a passion in life, and my passion is to spend on people. By Allah! To maintain ties and relationships and to show compassion and sympathy to people is more beloved to me than delicious food at the time of hunger, and a cool drink at the time of thirst.”

Some examples of her spending in the path of Allah Ta‘ala are:

– She would free one slave every week.

– She would donate one horse to be used in the path of Allah Ta‘ala every week. (Some narrations mention that she would free a slave and donate a horse every day, not every week!).

– When she would call her friends to spend time with her, then before they would leave, she would give them exquisite garments to wear. She would also hand gold coins to them and say, “The clothing is for you to keep, and the gold coins are for you to distribute among the poor among you.”

Similarly, she condemned miserliness saying, “How despicable is miserliness! If miserliness was a path, I would not tread it, and even if it was the finest clothing, I would not wear it.” She also mentioned, “The height of miserliness is where a person is too miserly to even purchase Jannah for himself.”

(Al-Bidaayah wan Nihaayah vol. 9, pg. 207, Sifatus Safwah vol. 2, pg. 430 and Al-Mahaasin wal Masaawi vol. 1, pg. 144)

Lessons:

1. One of the greatest challenges is that of protecting our hearts so that they are not overcome by the love of wealth. If our hearts remain protected, we will spend the wealth in the correct avenues and thus become closer to Allah Ta‘ala. However, if our hearts become saturated with the love of wealth, then this very same wealth will propel us towards sin through spending it in impermissible avenues and using it to show off, etc.

2. It is an undeniable reality that children are a reflection of their parents, in their features and in their ways as well. Hence, if the children grow up in a home where the parents are always giving sadaqah, engaged in the recitation of the Quraan Majeed, performing salaah, etc., then these very same qualities rub off onto the children. Hence, we need to be practical examples for our children.

3. Spending in the path of Allah Ta‘ala is an action that earns one ongoing rewards. To earn these rewards, we do not need to be millionaires. Rather, each person can spend and contribute according to his own means – even if they be little. Allah Ta‘ala looks at the heart with which the contribution is given. Hence, when there is an opportunity to spend in His path, we should hasten to spend whatever we can manage.

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December holidays: Guidance for customers and business owners

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Alhamdulillah, we are now coming to the end of the Gregorian and academic year (in South Africa). Everyone is on holiday from work and studies. Some families may want to go on an outing, others may need to stock up on stationary or work tools for the following year. Naturally, this increases our expenditure. A wealthy man may not notice but the working class people will have this worry on their minds. It is also the time of the year when businessmen are hopeful of doing well in their businesses.

During these moments, do not lose focus on the fact that Allah is our sole provider. It is not our acumen or hard work that provides, it is the grace of Allah upon us. Only what He decrees is what we will receive in our sustenance. Therefore, do not miss Salah to keep your business open, there is no logic in this. If Allah is blessing you with more wealth in December, we should pray more not less! Do not resort to haram means to bring people to your shop, like playing music, or else in seeking money from people, you risk losing the pleasure of Allah.

Help your neighboring businesses and Allah will help you too. Be supportive not competitive, as competing will not increase the amount of wealth you are decreed to earn, so why bother? Maintain good character with your employers. Sometimes we take this world too seriously and we break hearts over it. Imagine shouting at your employer and hearing they passed away the next day. How would you live with that regret? If they make a mistake, remember that we do too so have mercy.

Lastly, be simple, don’t let the December holidays make you extravagant. Marketing preys on our nafs causing us to become discontented with what we have. There is no point in buying more than we need, stressing because we cannot afford it and then spending a lifetime worrying about how to pay it all back. Luxuries are meant to make life easier but when it snatches our peace of mind, it makes life harder. We cannot dictate to Allah how much we want and expect Him to give us wealth accordingly. It does not work that way. The solution to this problem is simplicity and contentment with decree. Live within your means, not beyond it. This will help us to stress less and be happier, which are blessings that money can’t buy. May Allah grant us the tawfiq, aameen.

— Hazrat Ml. Dawood Seedat حفظه اللّٰه

Above is an extract from Hazrat’s talk on 03/12/18. To listen to the full talk, please click here.

Unapologetically Telling The Truth Is A Terrible Thing to Admire

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Why do we value “unapologetically telling the truth like it is” so highly? When did this become an actual thing that we lionize and aspire to? Why do we celebrate those who do this?

What’s the point of telling it like it is, even if people hate it? And what does it say about us as a community if this is how sincerity and authenticity is expressed? When did it become some type of significant accomplishment that is lauded by others?

There’s obviously an immediate benefit. You gain notoriety, fans, social media engagement, and maybe even just enough of a following to leverage a career (or presidency) out of it.

I have noticed a trend lately, particularly in discourse about Islamic issues online, where people are being heralded and promoted for telling it like it is.

This culture appears to be an overreaction to another problem (as most extremes often…

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YouTube Addiction

Question:

Assalaamu ‘alaikum

Respected ‘Ulama

I have recently developed an addiction to watching videos on YouTube. I know it’s wrong and most of the videos contain music as well as pictures of men which is zina of the eyes.

I know that if I continue watching, it is going to slowly strip away my modesty and further weaken my already weak imaan.

I feel very guilty after watching the videos and it disturbs be greatly. I have made istighfaar and tried to stop it, but due to my weakened state, I keep going back.

Please give me some advice as to what I could do to stop for good.

Jazakallah

Answer:

Bismihi Ta‘ala

Wa ‘alaikumus salaam wa rahmatullahi wa barkaatuh

Respected Sister in Islam

A person who is unwell requires treatment. Depending on the nature and extent of the illness, at times some basic home remedies may suffice, or perhaps some stronger medication and even an injection may be necessary, while at other times, hospitalization may be inevitable. Even in the hospital, some may need to be admitted into the ICU.

In your case, you are admitting to an addiction. An addiction cannot be treated with pain killers or even injections. It is a serious malady which requires the patient to be admitted into the isolation ward. Hence you must isolate yourself from the phone (or other devices) if you seriously wish to overcome this addiction. In simple terms – GET RID OF THE SMART PHONE.

There will be a hundred and one ‘reasons’ why you ‘cannot’ do so. These are generally excuses from nafs and Shaitaan. Once you take the step – which initially will be very difficult and bitter – you will very quickly get used to it and will actually enjoy the peace and betterment. If you cannot manage not having a smart phone for ever, then at least for a few months, leave it in safe keeping with some relative in another town.

Apart from this, it is very important that you make a timetable of aa’maal and diligently keep up with it. The aa’maal should include time for tilaawat (at least ¼ para daily), istighfaar, durood shareef and the third kalimah 100 times each, and to read authentic books of pious personalities. Insha-Allah you will overcome this addiction and be saved from its severe harms.

May Allah Ta‘ala make it easy for you and make you ‘addicted’ to his remembrance.

Answered by:

Uswatul Muslimah Panel of ‘Ulama

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Games and their “false” importance

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The deception of this dunya is that it turns our focus on unimportant things, until we start falsely believing they are important. One of them is games. Those who are caught up in the gaming world will pay any price for the latest game. Hours are wasted in futile play, which has no benefit for us.

A young man had a particular game and his achievements were recorded in the leaderboard. He played his way to the top of the leaderboard, where he became well-known in that gaming community. Eventually, he had the option of buying another game but if he did, he would lose all the rankings he had in this game. Over this he was worried and unsure what to do. He approached me with this dilemma, and he was actually willing to keep and play both games just so that his rankings remain.

Now what sort of achievement is this “ranking”? It is a false achievement, it bears no fruits. This is how the dunya fuels hubb-e-jah (love for fame) from a young age. Then years later when another game is released, that becomes the hot topic in the gaming community and the old ones are forgotten. That too, is a deception of the dunya – one game at a time, it tricks you into wasting your time.

So beware of activities that carry a “false” importance or “false” achievements. It may all be fun and games, but on the Day of Judgement we will be held accountable for it. Shaitaan will always tempt us to waste time on futile activities. Recognize the trap and rise above it. Be true to yourself and Allah will be true to you, by blessing you with real importance in His eyes, real achievements in the hereafter, and real rankings in Jannah. Don’t trade these real blessings from Allah, for that which is false in this worldly life. May Allah grant us the ability, aameen.

— Hazrat Ml. Dawood Seedat حفظه اللّٰه

Above is an extract from Hazrat’s talk on 26/11/18 in Masjid-ut-Taqwa, Pietermaritzburg. To listen to the full talk, please click here.

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Don’t just wish to be pious, make an effort

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Hazrat Ml. Ashraf Ali Thanwi رحمه الله said that if we wish to become pious without trying, it is unlikely we will achieve piety. The principle is simple: translate your wishes into actions. We all understand this in our worldly affairs. One who wishes to pass his exam will be advised to study. One who wishes to become wealthy will be advised to make an effort to earn.

However, in our religious matters we all wish to be pious but less of us exert the required effort. But just like in our worldly affairs, merely wishing is not enough. For example, all parents want their children to go to Jannah. But when we inspect our homes, have we created an environment that paves the path to Jannah, or one that paves the path to Jahanum? Do we hold taleem regularly or movie nights, do we encourage reading Islamic books or novels? What activities do we prioritize? These are the questions we should be asking.

If we follow the strategy of a millionaire, there is no guarantee we will become millionaires too. If someone has six children and we aspire to have as many, there is no surety we will be blessed in the same way. Not everyone is successful but we still make an effort. In contrast, every single person who tries in their Deen will undoubtedly be successful. Allah has promised this in the Qur’an and there is no guarantee stronger than that. Everyone will be rewarded provided we are sincere.

Therefore, worldly success is good but Jannah is better for those who believe. To acquire it recognize your flaws and make changes, not excuses. May Allah grant us the ability, aameen.

— Hazrat Ml. Dawood Seedat حفظه اللّٰه

Above is an extract from Hazrat’s talk on 26/11/18 in Masjid-ut-Taqwa, Pietermaritzburg. To listen to the full talk, please click here.